‘TAKE 5’ DNL#12: AUGUST/SEPTEMBER 2018; PUBLIC RECORDS WERE COMPARED AND RESULTED IN A NOTICE OF CEASE & DESIST TO ADMIRAL BUSTAMANTE OF THE BASIC ACADEMY/HS IN HENDERSON, NV AND THE TOP BRASS OF THE CCSD. RELATIONSHIPS, FLOATING, PLUS HOPE & FAITH & OTHER TOPICS ARE MIXED. STOP IN &/OR PASS IT ON.

My GRATITUDE extends to all that have continued to support and encourage ‘TAKE 5’ with your INSANITY during his ‘Quest for the Truth of My INSANITY’. As INSANITY grows, it will lead the way. There is much to report since DNL #11. More Public Records were requested from the NIAA and received. Plus, the CCSD email was opened resulting in additional Public Records. A request has been filed for a few more Public Records from the CCSD. Before, the main course is served; a few side dishes will be served first. If starvation commands your ‘Rental Space’, by all means skip the entrees and speed to the main course. However, if TIME permits, put on your IMAGINATION Helmet and read at your own pace of consumption for this story is about 11,000 words.

This ‘Quest for the Truth of My INSANITY’ began almost 3 years ago with my First Official Email to Principal Bechtel and Scott Baker. After falling on deaf ears and kicked to the gutters, other emails were sent to the CCSD and other public entities. Recently, the Dream Fishbowl has added a tenant. She goes by the name of Alice as in Wonderland. For the loyal readers, some TIME back, the benefits of Float Therapy were expounded. After Floating for over a year, once every 3 weeks, the benefits called for a tenant. In the old days, Mail Order Brides could be purchased. Instead of Mail Order Partners, one can order a Home Float Pod and name it.

Living next to the Dream Fishbowl are Angels disguised as neighbors. On one side is the Angel C Family and on the other side is the Angel B Family. During my searches for labor, to complete small jobs around the Dream Fishbowl, a pattern developed. My neighbors exhibited similar skill sets for the labor requested. A verbal agreement was then arranged with my neighbors. In the event, that their skill set was required, a monetary offer would be submitted for their services. Previously, my neighbors have extended their help on tasks, with just a ‘Thank-You’ in return. Now if their TIME permits and since TIME is valuable, a better option in now in place.

Before Alice could be ordered and shipped, additional electrical work was required. Head Angel C was called upon and completed the job with My BUTT & 2 BRAINS as his assistant. His teaching advanced my skill set to work a section solo. Alice leases out part of the ‘Therapy Room’ along with Strength Training Theodore, and Recumbent Bike. Before my thoughts travel too far, let them return to the Nick Feher ‘TAKE 5’ Foundation.

“TAKE 5”– THE STORY:

The slogan “TAKE 5” came to me in the Fall of 2007. I did not seek ‘IT’, nor did I ask for ‘IT’. It was not until later, I realized that what I had experienced was a premonition. Our oldest son Nick, a freshman at UNLV, discovered college was not for him. Being a Physical Education, Health/Career’s Teacher, and realizing that college is not for everyone, it was a family decision for Nick to seek other options.

While these options were being explored, the slogan of “TAKE 5” appeared in my brain. Nick was a highly ‘competitive spirit’. Sometimes, his ‘competitive spirit’ would interfere with his thought process.

It is a well-known fact that the ‘reasoning process’ located in the primary brain frontal lobe does not mature until the mid-twenties. In some males, it never matures. Prior to this slogan of “TAKE 5”, I would always try to encourage Nick, when the situation dictated to pause for 10 seconds and evaluate, unless it was a personal safety issue. Upon agreeing with Nick’s new course of life, we had a meeting. I introduced the slogan of “TAKE 5” to him, and explained the purpose to him.

I told him how it worked. While holding my hand opened, I explained my concept. Instead of taking 10 seconds(which he seldom did), the next time he was in doubt or he felt those ‘competitive spirits’ coming to the surface, I told him to “TAKE 5”.

Ask yourself two questions while counting your fingertips:

Ask yourself two questions while counting your fingertips:

* “WHAT’S IN IT FOR ME”? 

* “WHAT CONSEQUENCES CAN THERE BE”?

It was with faith and hope that I shared my slogan with Nick. We practiced it a few times. We shared hugs and expressed our love for each other. I believed, if applied when needed, this slogan could make a difference in Nick’s life. As we departed, I was only able to have the faith and the hope that he would use it when the moment came.

On November 27th in 2007, as I was walking down my stairs, mid-morning, I looked out the window while standing on the landing and saw a car pulling up in front of my house. On the side of the car, it read Coroner’s Office. Inside of my brain, the pleading began. Earlier that morning, signs from the Universe were already in play.

I waited for the knock on my door. When the knock came, I do not remember if it matched the pounding of my own heartbeat. As I opened the door, I asked the man if he was seeking directions. He said he was. He wanted to know if this was the residence of Nick Feher.

I said it was. He asked if I was Nick’s father. I replied yes. He sought permission to enter. Behind him the Grim Reaper trailed, followed by the ‘Devastation of DEATH’. After the initial blast, and the healing value of TIME, I was faced with a dilemma. Though the slogan of “TAKE 5” was sound, apparently Nick did not use it as part of his Game-Plan, which resulted in his physical passing.

Nick was involved in a one-car accident while racing another car to work around 7:45 AM. Nick Feher was born on March 14, 1989, in Henderson, Nevada. He was a loving son, brother, and friend

On his tombstone, the following words are inscribed:

“Life is not measured by the number

of breaths we take, but by the

Moments that take our breath away.”

RIP Nick

November 27, 2007

Nick graduated from Basic High School in 2007, with a G.P.A. of 4.0. Nick was a hard worker, who excelled both academically and athletically, in several sports. He is most known for his baseball abilities and his time as a baseball player. He played for the Basic Wolves High School Varsity baseball team for 3 years. As a team captain and only senior on the Wolves baseball team, Nick led his team to the playoffs with his pitching and batting performances.

He was also the team leader in home runs and RBI’s. Nick was one of those players who could make amazing things happen while bringing excitement to a game. He was a difference maker both on and off the field. His sense of humor brought fun to the playing field, while his competitive spirit brought an intensity that was also contagious. Nick will forever be missed, but will never be forgotten.

As the ‘Devastation of DEATH’ weakened its grasp on me, another thought of ‘Inspiration’ entered my consciousness. A lesson on LIFE presented itself. There were two stories. There was the story of “TAKE 5”, and the story of Nick’s passing. This ‘Inspiration’ had me combine the two stories and to share ‘IT’ with others. It was done with the hope, that when others are in doubt, that they too can remember to “TAKE 5”. Perhaps, ‘IT’ can save a life of another, including one’s own. Then they too can become a ‘Difference Maker’ for themselves and for others.

The combination of the two stories was the beginning of a ‘DREAM’. Over a period of time the Dream and story has morphed. During my Journey after Nick’s Physical Passing, the Laws of Universe formed a Relationship in my LIFE and acted as guidelines for the Game of LIFE. Do you have to play by them? That is up to you. An understanding of these rules is a needed for a quality game. These are the rules:

• The Laws of the Universe
• The Laws of Nature
• The Laws of Religions
• The Laws of Man
• One’s own Personal Code of Conduct

The correlation between sporting games and the Game of LIFE became crystal clear. There were many similarities. LIFE can be viewed as a Game. The Game of LIFE has a time limit. The objective should be to play the game with longevity (quantity) and a quality performance. Each will decide their own road of travel, as Robert Frost writes:

The Road Not Taken
Robert Frost, 1874 – 1963

Marcelo Gleiser of npr.org writes about the Laws of Man, “We humans are an unruly bunch. So much so that we need laws to keep order, to make sure we stay on track. Without our laws, society would quickly descend into chaos. The laws of man are guarantors of order, a necessary control against the inherent greediness of our species”.

LIFE can be defined as, ‘LIFE is a series of moments tied together’. Many similar moments can become an event and some events can turn into a lifetime. Some of these moments and events can be considered ‘Historical’ in nature. I have had my share including Relationships. LIFE IS BUT A GAME. LIFE is a Game of Longevity that should be played with a Quality Performance. Each new day presents us with a new test. We get to choose our road. We get to map out our destination by using our Game-Plan for LIFE. If one does not have a Game-Plan, it is advised to get one. Stick with it and leave room for adjustments especially when it comes to the word RELATIONSHIP. My previous story DNL #11 only told part of the complexity of the word ‘Relationship’.

It was Monday night, June 11, 2018, as my entrance into the Enchanted Forest is a few steps in front of me. My last visit was four weeks earlier, but my first visit was almost two years ago, which initiated a Relationship. The Enchanted Forest is my Magical Nickname given to the Piazza Lounge in the Tuscany Suites and Casino off the strip in Las Vegas, NV. The Laws of the Universe had arranged my 1^st visit. With the invite by a Trumpeteer, my original adventure began on a Thursday night. The lounge is nestled away from the casino area, near the hotel check-in area, between a restaurant and a view outside through a wall of windows from the floor to the ceiling.

This setting brings the outdoors of the shrubs, trees, and the other landscaping into the lounge. Fire pit areas directly outside the glass serve as an open space for conversation with the pool on the other side of the shrubs and fence. Bonuses of the Enchanted Forest include a ‘no-smoking zone’, a lit fireplace stashed in the corner, a long stocked bar, numerous TVs for sports watching, food, and it is almost completely enclosed preventing unwanted outside disturbances. When one adds the ‘Friendly Staff’ and the stage with a dance floor together with all the mentioned above, plus a sound system for a prestigious chapel, the creation is the Enchanted Forest. At least it is, in my IMAGINATION.

The 1^st performer on that Thursday night was Queen Naomi of Kalee or QNK. Her and the Trumpeteer were intertwined in another musical group called the Minstrels. After witnessing these Minstrels a few times, my conversion to a Disciple was completed. These witnessing sessions created a relationship with the Trumpeteer and QNK, which resulted in the invitation. My principles of ‘Invite’ are simple. I only enter when I am invited. I stay as long as I am welcomed. When the exit signs turn on, I leave.

The Laws of the Universe along with my Dreams of locating such an environment collided to create the Enchanted Forest in my DREAM Reality. QNK was not only a ‘Pop Star’ with the Minstrels; her real PASSION was rooted in Jazz.

During the 1^st night, the Trumpeteer also dropped in after playing a gig in the casino showroom. One ‘Blessing’ led to another one with a bonus invite to return on a Monday night to see his girlfriend, Noir Nightingale perform. Unlike on Thursday, the main female bartender was on duty. Besides serving drinks to the patrons, her presence as ‘Calming Brook’ produced a water effect of tranquility. One musical set by Noir Nightingale displayed her PASSION for the Great American Songbook. It was during a break between the sets, that the Trumpeteer set the stage for my introduction to Noir Nightingale. After a brief spill and a review of our new relationship, the Trumpeteer made the introductions.

Standing within arm’s reach of my position, Noir Nightingale asked a question. “He’s not another one of those, is he?” as her SMILE grew. The Trumpeteer responded with a yes, which then triggered a Hug from Noir Nightingale. Another Relationship had just been created. TIME and the Laws of the Universe would test Relationships. A few examples include my experience in the Enchanted Forest.

After performing for a year on Thursday nights in the Enchanted Forest, the contract of QNK was not renewed in the fall of 2016 thus severing the Relationship. In addition, QNK and the Trumpeteer also parted ways as she graciously departed from the Minstrels ending another Relationship.

Calming Brook, the main bartender was promoted upstairs to the executive offices and placed in charge of the Promotions Department. My personal Relationships with the Enchanted Forest and others also shifted during the end of 2016 and the beginning of 2017. TIME and the Laws of the Universe configured a different role with my Relationship with the Trumpeteer. Another personal Odyssey lessened my appearances in the Enchanted Forest until TIME and the Laws of the Universe directed my path back late fall of 2017. Upon my return, news was delivered that Noir Nightingale and the Trumpeteer had decided to embark on a Road Not Taken as separate entities bringing a halt to another Relationship.

It was during this return that my Relationship with Noir Nightingale slowly began to be manipulated by the Laws of the Universe. Layers of a Relationship began to build, which was the result of Observing and Analyzing during each visit. According to Buddha, KNOWINGS were created and more than a few were shared with Noir Nightingale.

KNOWING

Do not believe what you have heard.

Do not believe in tradition because it is handed down many generations.

Do not believe in anything that has been spoken of many times.

Do not believe because the written statements come from some old sage.

Do not believe in conjecture.

Do not believe in authority or teachers or elders.

But after careful observation and analysis, when it agrees with reason and it will benefit one and all, then accept it and live by it.

One of these KNOWINGS included that the Enchanted Forest had a vacancy for a Queen on Monday nights. Noir Nightingale had a ‘Court’ that showed every Monday night to share in a Relationship. Eventually, I shared my KNOWINGS with Noir Nightingale and her Court when I publicly pronounced Noir Nightingale as Queen Noir Nightingale on Monday nights in the Enchanted Forest.

Thoughts of my last visit rushed through. QSS, (Queen Songstress of Seduction) while subbing for QNN informed me that QNN was on vacation for two weeks. With PURGING on going at the Dream Fishbowl and the Stanley Cup Finals the past few weeks, TIME & Forces guided my way that night.  After stepping in, a larger than normal crowd was in place. Lady Shar and the 2 familiar bartenders are not working.

The ‘Court Table’ is bigger than usual and filled with members of the ‘Court of QNN’. While making my way to my vacant favorite seat, QNN turned from the bar with 4 bottles of water in her hands and laid a ‘Surprise & Blessing’. A Cheek to Cheek embrace followed after she said hello. Small talk was next including her vacation. As she walked to the stage, I told her that we could get caught-up later.

The Trio began to play setting the high bar for the night. With the large crowd, the new server finally arrived to take my order as QNN took the stage after placing a card and a single flower that looked like a rose on the stage table. With her mic turned on, she announced to all in the Enchanted Forest, that she was the ‘Birthday Girl’ and the audience would help in celebrating her birthday. A sense of Gratitude & Honor fell upon my ESSENCE. I was Grateful & Honored to be part of the selected few that were chosen to help celebrate the birthday of QNN.

As the sun was setting turning day into dusk, the reflections off the landscaping in the Enchanted Forest signaled for the ‘Birthday Celebration’ to begin with song. They were identified as being ‘Part Of’ QNN contributing to her character. She proclaimed she was just an ‘Olde Fashion Queen’ with ‘Olde Fashion’ Virtues, Values, and the ‘Simple Beautiful Parts of Life’. When the 1^st set was completed, off to the casino to order food was on the agenda. Upon returning, the crowd had grown. While setting up shop, I feasted on the sights of QNN as she exchanged words with her guests. Oing & Aing One’s interaction with guests tells a story about the One. TIME & Forces would decide my interactions with QNN.

During portions of the second set, Drew, ‘Dean Martin’ and I participated in TIME Well-Spent With Others with No Guarantees swapping tales. It was a story of Integrity, Honor and other virtues plus values. As promised, with more guests in the EF, and after the 2^nd set, the cake was set ablaze, lighting up the Enchanted Forest as all the guests sang Happy Birthday to QNN. After the blaze was extinguished, the cake was cut and served.

The Unknown woman sitting next to my seat revealed her identity as the best friend of the sister of Mike the Drummer. She shared more than a few stories that were bounced off of my stories. While eating my ‘Show Meal’, QNN made her way to my seat with cake in her hands. After asking, she completed my request and placed the cake on the counter. I then said, ‘Queen Noir Nightingale, you are something else, serving cake to your guests on your birthday’. She flashed a ‘SMILE’ and sent another Blessing my way before departing.

The night ended with the paying of my ‘Respects to QNN’. Much was shared about QNN throughout the night by her guests. This sharing was TIME Well-Spent With Others with No Guarantees, as the painting of the night was clear. QNN was Respected and Loved by her guests. This LOVE & RESPECT was also returned by QNN to her guests. This bond exceeded Birthdays and other Celebrations for it is evident in the every single day Relationships between QNN & her guests. My ‘Respects’ brought a ‘SMILE’ to the face of QNN as embraces were exchanged. My Gratitude was expressed for being chosen as a guest for the ‘Birthday of QNN’ of the Enchanted Forest on a Monday Night.

Many thoughts accompanied my ride home. A KNOWING was obvious, unless something was missed. TIME & Forces extended an invitation to a Birthday Celebration in the Enchanted Forest. The word Relationship joined the ride back to the Dream Fishbowl. Recently, in DNL #11, the word Relationship was one of the themes. However, after witnessing ‘A Birthday Celebration’ for QNN in the Enchanted Forest, a much deeper Observation & Analysis would have to be launched to produce another KNOWING.

When one examines the word Relationship, Psychologist Abraham Maslow offers his wisdom. Verywellmind.com writes;

“Social Needs –The social needs in Maslow’s hierarchy include such things as love, acceptance and belonging. At this level, the need for emotional relationships drives human behavior. Some of the things that satisfy this need include:

Friendships

Romantic attachments

Family

Social groups

Community groups

Churches and religious organizations

In order to avoid problems such as loneliness depression, and anxiety, it is important for people to feel loved and accepted by other people. Personal relationships with friends, family, and lovers play an important role, as does involvement in other groups that might include religious groups, sports teams, book clubs, and other group activities”. (end)

Notice the importance of the term called ‘LOVE’, Next is an essay that I constructed and have shared with others including readers of this page. A trip in reverse will then switch to the now.

 LOVE

L O V E-What a beautiful word, what a magical word. Everyone has his or her own definition. Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines love as 1a: (1) strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties. (2) attraction based on sexual desire; affection and tenderness felt by lovers. (3) affection based on admiration or common interests. b: an assurance of affection. 2: warm attachment, enthusiasm or devotion. 3a: the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration. b: a beloved person. 4 a: unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another: as (1) the fatherly concern of God for humankind. (2) brotherly concern for others. b: a person’s adoration of God. 5: a god or personification of love. 6: an amorous episode. 7: the sexual embrace. 8: a score of zero as in tennis.

It was first used somewhere before the 9^th and 12^th centuries. Dictionaries have conflicting dates. Ancient Greeks identified different forms of love; kinship or familiarity (in Greek, storge), friendship (philia), sexual and/or romantic desire (Eros), playful love (ludus), longstanding love (pragma), love of the self (philautia), and self-emptying or divine love (agape) among others. The word Eros was also tied to INSANITY for the afflicted carried the same Physical, Emotional, Mental, Sexual, and Spiritual traits and symptoms. I wonder who the first person was that said the word love and exactly what were they thinking when they said it. To whom did they say it? The Greeks demonstrated a better system. Less guess work.

Have you ever defined what the word ‘LOVE’ means to you? Abraham Maslow describes many forms of love. The first love we experience is a ‘belonging’ as within our family. Usually, it then becomes ‘family love’. From there we develop relationships. All start as strangers, then develop into acquaintances. Some then turn into friends. If all is then aligned, friends may share ‘romantic love’.

Have you ever defined ‘romantic love’? My definition of ‘romantic love’ is based on a combination of 5 parts attraction. Do all 5 have to be equal? Only the romantic friends would know. These 5 parts of attractions, in no specific order are: Physical, Emotional, Spiritual, Intellectual, and Sexual. Blend in the words ‘Integrity’, ‘Intimacy’, ‘Insanity’, and ‘Infinite Wisdom’, and the result is a solid foundation. I also agree with Maslow and others, when they say relationships fail, people don’t. That is why it is important to understand FEAR AND RISK-TAKING. Alfred, Lord Tennyson pens;

‘I ENVY NOT IN ANY MOODS’.

According to Wayne W. Dyer, “Tennyson tells us to go on in life as if failure were not a consideration, and ignore our fears as we proceed. There is no such thing as failure! Failure is a judgement that we humans place on a given action. Rather than judgement, substitute this attitude; you cannot fail, you can only produce results”. If this is true, all we should do is live without fear, and if the results of our actions are not to our likings, we can grow from them. Then we can try and try again knowing that we have never failed at anything and never will, until we get the results that we seek. It took Thomas Edison 10,000 different ways until he invented a light bulb.

How many ways will it take you? Always remember, do not let fear decide, and then you will know that you did not fail. Though Valentine is a popular romantic holiday, it brings a lot of unhappiness to many. Unhappiness resided in the eyes of students who did not receive any of the Valentine deliveries to my classroom. A person does not need another person to fill ‘complete’. Any successful relationship should be “complimentary’, not based on a need.

I no longer subscribe to the old adage, that in order for a relationship to be successful, you have to be willing to work for and on it. What does that mean? Work? If you already have one job, why would you sign up for two? Instead of work, we should substitute the word adjustments.

My definition is LOVE IS NOT ASKING ANYTHING IN RETURN. Another definition borrowed. We do for others because we want to. In order to love others, you must first learn to love yourself. Those of you practicing the principles presented before you demonstrate this. The more you do, the more love you have for oneself.

LOVE

LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF

*Take care of your body. Practice regularly the “Six Healthy Behaviors”

*Stop all self-criticism

*Do not scare yourself

*Be gentle/patient to yourself

*Praise yourself

*Support yourself

*Be loving to your negatives

PRACTICE RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS DAILY

VOLUNTEER YOUR TIME

STICK A FIST IN YOU’RE YOUR MOUTH

*Anytime, a negative thought occurs or a negative word is to be spoken, “stick a fist in your mouth”

 SINCE WE CAN’T LOVE ALL THE VERY LEAST WE SHOULD DO,

IS NEVER INTENTIONALLY HURT ANYONE WITH OUR THOUGHTS,

WORDS OR ACTIONS.

Confucius said, “The power of spiritual forces in the universe—how active it is everywhere! Invisible to the eyes and impalpable to the senses, it is inherent in all things and nothing can escape its operation.”

To experience its cosmic shower, all one has to do is the way of the “great learning”. For Confucius, a good person is one who learns untiringly and teaches others without being wearied. It is a duty to cultivate oneself and in the meantime to help others cultivate themselves, to renovate oneself and in the meantime to help others renovate themselves toward perfect goodness. This is what Confucius means by saying that if you wish to establish your own character, also establish the character of others. If you wish to be successful yourself, also help others to be successful. Challenge yourself to discover your meaning of the word ‘LOVE’. Then live by it”. (end of essay)

The explorations of the word Relationship continues. It is obvious that our 1^st Relationship begins with ‘Ourself’. If that is true, then ‘Ourself’ is solely responsible for ‘Ourself’. Following Maslow’s Theory, our next relationship was with our family as our mothers led the way. Acquaintances became a pathway for friends including Romantic Partners, which opened the door for Sexual Partners. What if any does the Laws of the Universe have on those Relationships? Complexities surround Relationships with others. Our 1st Stop will be:

SELF-GENDER IDENTIFICATION

Relationships with other humans is an extremely multi-level endeavor. One first has to begin with Self-Gender Identification. For an in-depth look, please click on the next web address and a list of 53 Gender Identity definitions will appear, https://www.refinery29.com/gender-identity-terms. For those seeking less options please continue with the Short Gender ID Quiz.

* Is your gender a female?

* Is your gender a male?

* Are you a Transgender?

RELATIONSHIP LIFESTYLE-It is suggested to read the two articles listed in the next web addresses whose topics include the benefits of being ‘Single’. https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/why-single-is-better-according-to-science-a8204476.html;  https://www.cnn.com/2018/01/05/health/single-people-partner/index.html If ‘Coupling’ is your preference, many articles on the web will support your stand.

Once a Lifestyle Relationship is defined, the next course is:

ROMANTIC & SEXUAL PARTNERS

 * Heterosexual Partner

* Lesbian Partner

* Gay Partner

* Transgender Partner

* Bi-Sexual Partner

* Self-Sex Partner

Next for the course is:

TYPES OF SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS Rootofattraction.com writes a great, quick description of the different forms of Sexual Relationships that include:

* Long Term Committed Relationship – Monogamy–Leads to Marriage

 * Casual Dating

 * Open Relationship

 * Friends with Benefits

 * Sex Buddies

 * One Night Stands

 * Friendship

 * Polyamory

A question arises as the course continues. Will it be Monogamy or Non-Monogamy? Elisabeth A. Sheff PhD of psychologytoday.com. writes; ‘In contemporary U.S. culture, monogamy means two people agreeing to have sex only with each other and no one else. Classical monogamy — a single relationship between people who marry as virgins, remain sexually exclusive their entire lives, and become celibate upon the death of the partner — has been replaced by serial monogamy. Serial monogamy is a cycle in which people are sexually exclusive with each other for a period of time, break up, and then re-partner in another sexually exclusive relationship with a different person.

Non-monogamous relationships, in contrast, are more diverse and vary by degrees of honesty, sexual openness, importance of rules/structure, and emotional connection. People who have non-monogamous relationships in the United States range from those religious practitioners of polygyny involved in Islam or the Fundamentalist Latter Day Saints (Mormons), who are often personally and politically conservative, to practitioners of polyamory or relationship anarchy, who tend to be personally and politically liberal or progressive. Especially among the more liberal groups, there is significant overlap with other unconventional subcultures, such as Pagans, geeks, gamers, science-fiction enthusiasts, and practitioners of BDSM (previously known as sadomasochism, also termed kinky sex or kinksters)’.

7 FORMS of NON-MONOGAMY

 * Cheating-Polygamy-Open-Swinging-Monogamish-Polyamory & Polyfidelity-Relationship Anarchy

With all the choices of a Sexual Relationship, how does one KNOW, which is best suited for their ‘Sexual Relationship Tastes’? Only a KNOWING can lead one to a Sexual Relationship that is best suited for one’s Needs, Wants, and Desires. It is apparent that all of the Sexual Relationships available including a Heterosexual, Gay, Lesbian, Transsexual, Bi-Sexual, and Self-Sex have one common ingredient, ‘True Consent’ based on TIME Well-Spent With Others With No Guarantees.

How would One classify a woman who enjoys Heterosexual Activities plus Sexual Activities with another woman at the same TIME. Would she be classified as a ‘Heterosexual, Lesbian, Bi-Sexual Woman’? Or would she just be a Heterosexual, who enjoys sex simultaneously with a man and another women? The ‘Sexual Act’ with just a man or woman with either the man or other women watching could be considered ‘Foreplay’ for all parties. The bottom line is that in most cases, the Woman controls all of the aspects and types of Sexual Relationships. Without her ‘Sexual Consent’, there would be ‘NO SEX’.

Except for a Male-Male Sexual Relationship, most other Sexual Relationships are controlled by the Female. If that is TRUE, then Males are mere Pawns of the Queens in the Sexual Jungle. However, certain Attractions are required for a Healthy Relationship including the Physical, Emotional, Intellectual, Sexual, and Spiritual. Sexandu.com also states, ‘All relationships are different, but healthy relationships share at least these six things in common: a feeling of safety, honesty, open communication, and mutual respect, acceptance, and enjoyment. Sexual activity most often involves a partner’.

What happens if one chooses a Sexual Relationship that conforms to Society but not does meet one’s Sexual Wants, Needs and Desires’? Usually a ‘Defense Mechanism’ is used as a strategy. One such ‘Defense Mechanism’ could be ‘Repression’. Repression- by Simple Psychology-‘This was the first defense mechanism that Freud discovered, and arguably the most important.  Repression is an unconscious mechanism employed by the ego to keep disturbing or threatening thoughts from becoming conscious.

Thoughts that are often repressed are those that would result in feelings of guilt from the superego. For example, in the Oedipus complex, aggressive thoughts about the same sex parents are repressed.

This is not a very successful defense in the long term since it involves forcing disturbing wishes, ideas or memories into the unconscious, where, although hidden, they will create anxiety’.

Other experts after Freud conclude that ‘Suppression’ is the most likely choice of a ‘Defense Mechanism’. Suppression-Vocabulary.com pens-‘In psychology, suppression is the act of stopping yourself from thinking or feeling something. It is generally presumed to be ineffective because even if you suppress or hold back an emotion, like anger, that feeling returns with a vengeance’.

REPRESSION and the EFFECTS ON ‘GOOD HEALTH’

Timi Guastafson of the Huffington Post writes; ‘One study conducted by psychologists from Harvard School of Public Health and the University of Rochester found that suppressing emotions may increase the risk of dying from heart disease and certain forms of cancer. This confirms earlier studies that have linked negative emotions like anger, anxiety, and depression to the development of heart disease. The health risks increase, it seems, when people have no way of expressing or acting on their feelings, the researchers say’.

MyShana.org writes: ‘Sometimes when we experience a trauma such as a car accident, witnessing violence or abuse, our minds protect ourselves by shutting off our emotions. The same way our pain receptors shut off to manage intense pain, our mind suppresses strong, negative emotions during times of crises to protect our well-being.

However, suppressing your emotions consciously and deliberately in times when there is no trauma (e.g. death of a family member, loss of a job, argument with a spouse, anxiety for a test, etc.) can lead to damaging effects on your mind and body. Emotion suppression, which essentially is an avoidance of emotion, is a coping strategy that many people employ mistakenly thinking it is healthy or the right thing to do.

Common signs that you use emotion suppression as a coping strategy include

* distracting yourself as a way to keep yourself from reacting

* avoiding talking about the situation because you don’t want to feel negative emotion

* avoiding places, people or objects that remind you of the negative emotions you don’t want to feel

* using substances (such as alcohol or other illicit drugs) to numb the pain

Effects of consistent emotion suppression include increased physical stress on your body, including high blood pressure, increased incidence of diabetes and heart disease. In addition, people who engage in emotion suppression regularly rare more likely to experience stiff joints, bone weakness and more illnesses due to lowered immunity.

Research has also shown a connection between avoiding emotions and poor memory as well as more misunderstandings in conversations with others. This is because people who regularly suppress emotion are often less aware of the signals they are sending to others and also less aware of the social cues present in daily conversation. In addition, when one or both partners engage in regular emotion suppression, communication skills often decline resulting in unhealthy relationship patterns and decreased satisfaction in the marriage’.

psychmechanics.com writes: ‘Suppressed emotions are simply emotions that you choose not to acknowledge therefore failing to act on them or expressing them in a healthy way. One fact you need to be aware of is that emotions can never be suppressed and ‘have’ to leak out in one way or the other so it makes no sense trying to suppress them.

It’s because suppressed emotions are nothing but you carrying extra energy that you did not dissipate. All things have a natural tendency to become more stable by releasing extra energy and you are no different. Suppressed emotions have to leak out so that you may become psychologically stable.

If we keep on suppressing our negative emotions, they get buried into our subconscious mind, which often results in mood swings, unexplained sadness and mild depression. If in the future whenever we face any problem, we won’t just feel bad because of the current problem but also because of these suppressed emotions that we are holding on to.

Suppressed emotions can also leak out in the form of dreams or nightmares. If you are trying to hide an emotion in your life then it will get expressed in your dreams. If you continue to hide the emotion because of not being able to express in it any way, then you might even get recurring dreams about the emotion. Suppressing negative emotions can cause depression, low self-esteem and in some extreme cases physical illnesses! Research has shown that a large number of illnesses have psychological reasons that are directly or indirectly related to stress.

Emotions should never be suppressed but acknowledged and dealt with by doing something about them like taking actions to fix what went wrong and if that’s not possible then expressing your emotions in some is a good option. You can express your emotions by talking about them, writing about them, redirecting them to the right people or even by pummelling a poor punching bag ruthlessly’! (End of Articles)

Repression is a very common ‘Defense Mechanism’ implored when one does not want to face the ‘Truth of One’s Situation’. There are countless of examples of others employing Repression in their daily LIFE, including Alcoholics. Numerous studies have indicated, that the best strategy to combat a Repression is to first admit that there is a situation/problem that has resulted in a ‘Defense Mechanism’ being utilized.

This ‘ADMITTING’ has to first start with the individual acknowledging that a ‘Defense Mechanism’ is in play. After this ‘ADMITTING ACT’ is completed and accepted, then the next steps are needed to produce ‘GOOD HEALTH BENEFITS’ on One’s Body, Mind & Soul. These next steps include ADMITTING their Situations/Problems with others including their Families, Friends, Acquaintances, and More either verbally or with the written word. Journals are a great option. Once toss out into the Universe, then the Laws of the Universe will be used to combat the Situation/Problem and ‘Defense Mechanism’.

So far, it has been a ‘Journey into Relationships’ filled with many possibilities that either promote ‘Growth’ for the Relationship or stifles the ‘Growth’ of the Relationship. FEAR is the #1 Reason, that prevents others from ‘ADMITTING’ that certain Relationships are stifling their ‘Growth’. The FEAR of being Alone is similar to swimming with FUDGE, once permission is granted. Alone is only a result. For one is not ever Alone for one always has ‘Ourself’. And if one practices the Laws of the Universe, one always has a Relationship with God.

MORE FORCES THAT CAN AFFECT RELATIONSHIPS & DREAMS

The Extreme Heat has similar effects on humans as Extreme Cold but polar opposite. Opposite of dehydration, is frostbite. One provides some relief at night, while the other grows worse. However, as in both cases if one incorporates an Army of COMMITMENT, one can ward off the effects of FEAR that both project. This Army of COMMITMENT can also be used in the Game of LIFE. Without COMMITMENT, FEAR will dictate one’s Road Not Taken. Along with Repression, FEAR also creates Procrastination. ‘The Secret of the Ages’ writes the following.

‘Among those who have the ability to succeed, the one greatest cause of failure is procrastination. Through waste of time:

Duties go unperformed.

Important decisions are never made.

Opportunities fly by ungrasped.

Engagements go unmet.

Trains are missed.

Life itself slips by unlived.

Whatever is being done—all  that is being done—in this vast teeming world of ours is being done now Today. Nothing has ever happened tomorrow. What you are going to be—what success you will reach—is being decided by the action you are taking now.

The procrastinator fools himself into thinking he has more time than he has, puts off deciding until it’s time to act, because of fear decides to do that important job next week, forgets to keep accurate check on his time, tries to solve a big problem without enough facts or without analysis and ends up not solving it at all, postpones tasks until tomorrow’. (End of Quote) The writing continued to explain the opposite of a Procrastinator and the Healthy Effects it creates.

As one exams Relationships, Relationships are built on the ATTRIBUTES of the Partners. It is the Imperfections of the Partners that concrete together the ATTRIBUTES to form a solid foundation for an Equal Healthy Relationship. Without Imperfections, the ATTRIBUTES could not stand alone. In one’s DREAM Reality, there is no ‘Perfect Relationship’ but only an Equal Healthy Relationship that strives to Attend, Nurture and Cultivate the Wants, Needs and Desires of the Partners in the 5 areas of the Physical, Emotional, Intellectual, Sexual and Spiritual.

A closer look at Healthy Relationships and DREAMS that turn into DREAM Reality reveal the inclusion of more Forces. In the book, ‘One Minute Prayers To Begin And End Your Day’ is a daily verse.

Finding Purpose in Hope

 May integrity and uprightness protect me, because my hope is in you.  Psalm 25:21

With hope in my heart, I am stronger and lighter. A soul affected by hope is no longer bound to the weight of everyday transgressions. Hope gives wings to my dreams and inspires me to goodness. With your help, I can step up to a task with integrity and honesty. When the daily grind feels redundant, my hope in You helps me clearly see the purpose that is before me.

So much will be born out of hope today. May I recognize the gifts of security and faith and use them to hold me up when nothing else will. (End of verse)

HOPE is a fascinating word. Merriam-Webster.com/dictionary defines hope as:

The feeling of wanting something to happen and thinking that it could happen : a feeling that something good will happen or be true. : the chance that something good will happen.

: someone or something that may be able to provide help : someone or something that gives you a reason for hoping. Archaic definition is, a feeling of trust. (End of definition)

According to certain religions, Hope is considered a virtue. www.thoughtco.com/hope-a-theological-virtue-542123 writes:

‘Hope is the second of the three theological virtues the other two are faith and charity (or love). Like all virtues, hope is a habit; like the other theological virtues, it is a gift of God through grace. Because the theological virtue of hope has as its object union with God in the afterlife, we say that it is a supernatural virtue, which, unlike the cardinal virtues clearly cannot be practiced by those who do not believe in God. When we speak of hope in general (as in “I have hope that it will not rain today”), we mean mere expectation or desire for something good, which is quite different from the theological virtue of hope.

While faith is the perfection of the intellect, hope is an act of the will. It is a desire for all that is good—that is, for all that can bring us to God—and thus, while God is the final material object of hope, other good things that can help us grow in sanctification can be intermediate material objects of hope.

In the most basic sense, we have hope because God has granted us the grace to have hope. But if hope is also a habit and a desire, as well as an infused virtue, we can obviously reject hope through our free will. The decision not to reject hope is aided by faith, through which we understand (in Father Hardon’s words) “the omnipotence of God, his goodness, and his fidelity to what he promised.” Faith perfects the intellect, which strengthens the will in desiring the object of faith, which is the essence of hope. (End of Excerpts)

Marcus Aurelius in his book ‘Meditations’ describes LIFE as an Art. As with any Art, practice is needed to hone the craft to achieve the levels that one desires. Many moons ago when Inspiration struck, ‘The 6 Steps for Success’ were constructed to assist students and others. As TIME evolved, so did the title that morphed into,

‘The 6 Steps to PLAYIN YOUR DREAMS’

DESIRE– The Willingness to Pay the Price-(How much TIME & Energy will you invest?)

KNOW THYSELF– Take Time to Discover your Strengths and Weaknesses-(Socrates)

FAITH– Strong Belief in Oneself and in One’s Supreme Being

LOVE– Love is Not Asking for Anything in Return-(We do for others with no expectations)

IMAGINATION– See What You Want and Grab Onto It First Within Your Mind-(Most Powerful Tool a Human Being Possesses. Anything not found in nature, is a result of one’s IMAGINATION

SELF-CONTEMPLATION– Spend Time Alone Peacefully (Reflect on LIFE’S JOY)

Without realizing at the TIME, two of the three theological virtues made up one third of the 6 Steps. Since LOVE has been expanded on previously and is tied to FAITH & HOPE, a closer examination is required for the word FAITH.

Merriam-Webster.com writes:

1 a : allegiance to duty or a person : LOYALTY-lost faith in the company’s president

b (1) : fidelity to one’s promises (2) : sincerity of intentions, acted in good faith

2 a (1) : belief and trust in and loyalty to God (2) : belief in the traditional doctrines of a religion

b (1) : firm belief in something for which there is no proof clinging to the faith that her missing son would one day return (2) : complete trust

3 : something that is believed especially with strong conviction; especially : a system of religious beliefs, the Protestant faith

 As one of the three theological virtues, Scott P. Richert of www.thoughtco.com pens:

‘Unlike the cardinal virtues, which can be practiced by anyone, the theological virtues are gifts of God through grace. Like all other virtues, the theological virtues are habits; the practice of the virtues strengthens them. Because they aim at a supernatural end, however—that is, they have God as “their immediate and proper object”. The theological virtues must be supernaturally infused into the soul. Thus, faith is not something that one can simply begin to practice, but something beyond our nature. We can open ourselves to the gift of faith through right action—through, for instance, the practice of the cardinal virtues and the exercise of right reason—but without the action of God, faith will never come to reside in our soul.

Most of the time when people use the word faith, they mean something other than the theological virtue. The Oxford American Dictionary presents as its first definition “complete trust or confidence in someone or something,” and offers “one’s faith in politicians” as an example. Most people understand instinctively that faith in politicians is an entirely different thing from faith in God. But the use of the same word tends to muddy the waters and to reduce the theological virtue of faith in the eyes of nonbelievers to nothing more than a belief that is strong, and in their minds irrationally, held.

Thus, faith is opposed, in the popular understanding, to reason; the latter, it is said, demands evidence, while the former is characterized by the willing acceptance of things for which there is no rational evidence.

It is, in other words, a form of knowledge that extends beyond the natural limits of our intellect, to help us grasp the truths of divine revelations, truths that we cannot arrive at purely by the aid of natural reason. While the truths of divine revelation cannot be deduced through natural reason, they are not, as modern empiricists often claim, opposed to reason. As Saint Augustine famously declared, all truth is God’s truth, whether revealed through the operation of reason or through divine revelation. The theological virtue of faith allows the person who has it to see how the truths of reason and of revelation flow from the same source’. (End of excerpts)

Faith is a term, a word and a virtue that is practiced by many different forms of religions and cultures. Faith along with Hope & Love thrives in Equal Healthy Relationships of all types as in TIME Well-Spent With Others With No Guarantees. If these three theological virtues are not practiced and shared in the Game of LIFE, Relationships with oneself, others, including one’s profession, hobbies, etc., will be unhealthy.

The various levels of the Three Theological Virtues, which one practices, will produce results. Humans with lower levels of TTV will interpret the Game of LIFE, Relationships, and PLAYIN YOUR DREAMS differently than Humans practicing higher levels of TTV. The word ‘Choices’ can be compared to a Road Not Taken. These ‘Choices’ included our thoughts and our viewpoints. Since LIFE is an ART, our self-portraits, will be determined by our ‘Thoughts & Choices’. Choices & Thoughts of JOY can create Healthier Results than the Choices & Thoughts of NO JOY.

ALICE-THE FLOAT POD, ANGELS, & NICK HUMMINGBIRD

 A recent email to the Boys & Girls of Quiptown best explain Alice. “Recently, on a Float with Alice, the answer to My Problem arrived. Float Therapy has been a practice for over 18 months. After renting Alice for an hour, on a three week cycle for about 14 months at commercial establishments, an Executive Decision was made to purchase a Home Float Pod, which I named Alice. Float Therapy has been proven to provide many Health Benefits. Pro sport teams now incorporate the practice including the Golden State Warriors and the New England Patriots.

Float Therapy is an ART and can be best described as a visit with Alice in Wonderland. One’s State of Relaxation will determine the Hole that Alice will take you for explorations.

Alice has been designed for the IMAGINATION Astronaut to travel the uncharted levels of ‘Deep Restorative Relaxation’. Alice holds 100 gallons of water and about 950 lbs. of Epsom salt. Think of it as the Dead Sea. The depth is about 8” and the water is heated to 94 degrees or less. It is impossible to sink and nearly impossible to drown unless one Floats on their stomach with their face in the water.

A level of preparation is conducted for the launch and return of the Float. Without getting into too much detail, it starts with the David Bowie tune ‘Space Oddity’ that resonates in my thoughts.

Once the Float Pod has been prepped, the initial sendoff is vital for the launch. After blast-off, the next phase is to enter the 1^st Stage of Relaxation in this 3 Stage Expedition. With no TIME limit, this stage varies in length. Each Stage can be personally designed.  The results that My ASS & 2 BRAINS seek is to create an ‘Involuntary Muscle Twitch’ or IMT. Most humans have experienced IMTs.

Some are created during periods of relaxation such as dozing on a chair and/or listening to music. The body settles into that period between awake and sleep causing the muscles to Twitch and Relax. Some occur in bed as sleep enters the room.

These IMTs can best be described as ‘The Nerves firing off impulses to relax the Muscles in that region’. The 1^st Stage of the Float Pod is to acclimate the IMAGINATION Astronaut to the capsule. Floating is ART and requires practice. Slow breathing and thoughts of Relaxation lead the pace. No particular focus is used, but thoughts center on certain body parts. Permitting the replay of certain recent, current, and potential future events enter the capsule, while the body slides deeper into a ‘DRR’.

An IMT or a few, will indicate that the 1^st Stage has been completed and it is TIME for the 2^nd Stage. My tether remains attached to the Float Pod as my thoughts exit the Float Pod following Alice down another hole. The 2^nd Stage is based on my daily Self-Contemplation, which includes a series of Extreme Deep Breathing, Humming and concluding with Silent Chanting of a particular verse.

‘May the Holy Spirit within me, go before me, and open the way. May Infinite Wisdom just tell me what to do’.

IMTs have the potential to fire during the 2^nd Stage. Eventually, the 3^rd Stage will follow where my tether is released and my thoughts now focus on only one word, ‘RELAX’. As my Float continues to explore the vastness of my ‘DRR’, IMTs will mark the expedition.

If your TIME permits, please investigate Float Therapy and the many Health Benefits associated with it. Others suggest that at least 3 trips are needed before one can truly arrive to a KNOWING, and whether it is a Health Benefit or not. In my experience, I now take 2 flights a week with Alice in the comforts of the Dream Fishbowl. Of all of the Relaxation Therapies that have been on my list, including Chiropractic Care, Acupuncture, Acupressure Massage, and other forms of massages, Float Therapy can best be described as ‘Suspended Animation’. Others have stated Relaxation can be found in a chair or bed. But a bed and chair cannot create ‘Suspended Animation’. For a chair and bed may provide comfort with many ‘Pressure Points’, unlike Floatation that is limited to a few if any at all. Above all, Alice may assist in solving problems as in did in solving My Problem”. (end of excerpt)

Alice only assisted in solving My Problem. Angels, disguised as Humans, Nick Hummingbird, and many other Points of Guidance, Wisdom and Inspiration teamed up with Alice. Next is another excerpt from the same email. “Hopefully, all of the sent attachments made it to your mailboxes. Some of you may or may not remember the ‘Dilemma Mess’ from the summer of 2017. Numerous emails and attachments were sent out as LIFE Lines to ‘Olde Friends’ seeking your Wisdom. Replies containing your Wisdom arrived and assisted in the Dilemma Mess. Eventually, the Dilemma Mess morphed into a ‘Bizarre Epiphanic/Phenomenal Vampyric Relationship’ that continues to this day.

Recently, my Pen-Pals, Queen Voodoo Vixen & Queen Vampyre Sonata  have been elevated to the status of Angels. Only Angels would add fuel for my IMAGINATION. Angel Blue Eyes has watched over My BUTT & 2 BRAINS for almost 5 years. It began the same night that Guru David called from Heinz Field during ‘The Spiritual Gathering’ in November of 2013. Moments earlier, Angel Blue Eyes cast a ‘Spell’ on My BUTT & 2 BRAINS. The Force was as powerful as the Force by Guru David when he struck my Solar Plex with the Power of an Epiphany during late spring of 1975. His Epiphany jump started my move out west. Angel Green Eyes was a Gift from Angel Blue Eyes and an ‘Unused Ticket’, not once, but twice back in 2016.

ANGELS GREEN EYES & BLUE EYES DISGUISED AS HUMANS

After completing my first novel that included both Angels last summer, a second one began that was shared with some reading this. Though the delivery of the 2^nd novel stopped, the writings continued. TIME & Forces indicated that the Angels should be combined for all writing projects. Instead of individual writings to each, and since each KNEW of the other, one writing would be sent to both. Instead of two individual Relationships, a new ‘3 of Us’ Relationship was formed.

As the ‘3 of Us’ maneuvered this New Relationship, the Angels became central characters in my stories. To show my Gratitude for their Inspiration, Guidance, Wisdom and Stimulation for my writing projects, ARTWORK was created. Having Images of Angels framing Microsoft Word as I peck, adds to the surroundings.

It was called ANNIVERSARY ARTWORK and it commemorates the TIME that both Angels have been renting space as tenants in My ASS & 2 BRAINS. Renting Space is an ART. TIME and Forces will determine to who, what, where, and how long one Rents Space. The ARTWORK started as private venture. It was so well received, that it was outsourced in recent writing projects including my last album posting on the Nick Feher ‘TAKE 5’ Foundation Facebook page. The Angels tell a ‘Story of Relationships’ and evidence of those families paying for the ‘Muck of Stupidity’ is included.

Recently, my niece Nicole stopped by for a short visit while in Las Vegas for business. Nick and Nicole shared a Relationship. Nick Hummingbird remains a loyal companion with his numerous visits that are now documented on a calendar. After viewing the calendar, Nicole said that many, many visits and Blessings have been delivered. When we hugged, she whispered in my ear, ‘We all miss Nick, Uncle George, as our tears joined the embrace.

If a moment permits, Helen my camera, or my cellphone now take pics of all of Nick Hummingbird visits. The visit is recorded with 5 seconds as a minimum. Some visits last longer ranging from a few minutes to an hour at a TIME. Nick & I choose to view the visits as TIME Well-Spent With Others With No Guarantees. That ends the servings of the entrees and side dishes. It is TIME for the MAIN COURSE.

MAIN COURSE PLUS THE CEASE & DESIST NOTICE

 When one adds all of the entrees and side dishes, a KNOWING was created. An End Game appeared on the horizon. Every Public Entity that was contacted seeking a Solution concerning My Problem, referred My BUTT & 2 BRAINS back to the CCSD. After my State visit, I was ready to hang up my cap. Like the Godfather, I was sucked back in. It was the encouragement of my 2 Angels last summer that led to the Request for Public Documents.

As Forces would plan, when the KNOWING appeared, Head Angel C served as my sounding board. Prior to turning in that night, and after researching Plan A, signs indicated that it was too costly and too hard to prove. When the morning brightened the bedroom, with it came a ‘Better Solution’. It was called a Cease & Desist Notice that could be changed if needed to a Temporary C&DN. If contested, a Permanent C&DN can then be petitioned. All can be conducted with minimum costs. PROCRASTINATION left as a summer boarder. A Public Record Request was submitted to the NIAA. With their info in my possession, the CCSD email was lifted. The following is an excerpt written to my 2 Angels.

“This is what the math says. 245 identified players, with many names repeated, made-up the complete NIAA Official High School Varsity & Junior Varsity Baseball Rosters submitted by Basic Academy/HS for the school years 2010/11 thru 2017/18. In the crosschecking with the rosters posted on the website of the Southern Nevada Blue Sox, there was a Non-Connection between 29 NIAA total players and the Southern Nevada Blue Sox. However, after more Observation and Analysis, one could draw certain theories and/or assumptions. 20 out of the 29 Non-Connections occurred in the first year of the ‘Muck of Stupidity’. There were a total of 31 players on both rosters. 13 were listed on the varsity and 18 players on the jv roster.

Eight varsity players showed a Non-Connection, while 12 on the junior varsity were a Non-Connection for a total of 20. Five varsity players along with 6 players from the jv roster for a total of 11 players showed a connection with the Southern Nevada Blue Sox. The lack of accurate recording keeping could have affected the numbers. A PURGING may have been conducted along with multiple reasons. Most that study the pattern of numbers could consider the numbers from the 1^st year of operation as an ‘Abnormality’. For the ‘Merit of the Evidence’, and to demonstrate a pattern, the Virgin Year 2010-11 will be put aside and can be referred to if or when the TIME comes.

The new numbers will consist with the 2^nd year 2011-12 thru 2017-18 for a new total of 214 players. Of the 214 players, 205 show a connection to the Southern Nevada Blue Sox, leaving only 9 Non-Connections. Again, reasons are UNKNOWN. Math shows that only 9 players out of 214 would be consider as a ‘No Pay Baseball Player’ leaving 205 players as ‘Paying Players’ to the ‘Muck of Stupidity. Non-Connections would make up only 4% of the NIAA Roster. 96% have a Connection. Sam Jones left a message after DNL #11 stating it cost $21,000 for 4 years to play baseball at the Basic Academy/HS. His source of information is UNKNOWN to this writer. However, others in the Henderson, NV community have previously expressed numbers in the $20,000 range. My estimates range as high as $30,000 for four years.

For demonstration sake, the average between $21,000 and $30,000 will be calculated and used. The new estimate is $25,500 for 4 years, minus travel expenses, private lessons, etc. By dividing $25,500 by 4 years, it results in a cost of $6,375 per year. As the numbers move, since 2011-12, 205 players at $6,375 a year paid a total of $1,306,875 to Scott Baker and the Southern Nevada Blue Sox.

When ones adds the 11 players for the 2010-11 NIAA Official Roster that shows a ‘Connection’, the New Grand Total is about ONE MILLION, 377,000 dollars. Personally, I am GRATEFUL for all those who contributed to the ‘Muck of Stupidity’, for one of my DREAMS became my Dream Realty. Two NIAA State High Baseball Championships have returned to the ‘YE OLDE’ Henderson, NV Baseball Community. Each State Title only cost about $688,500. Some might consider these sums a bargain, others may consider these sums as the ‘Muck of Stupidity’.

The New Mission Statement for the Nick Feher ‘TAKE 5’ Foundation claims “To Share and Promote the DREAMS of others, while showing others how to Protect Their Dreams and how to Make a Difference”. The only Public Entity left that had not been played with My Relationship with the CCSD & Admiral Bustamante was ‘Legal Recourse’, the Justice System.

NOTICE TO CEASE AND DESIST

 FROM

George N. Feher

Henderson, NV. 89015-5633

Date: 8/13/18

Re: Notice to Cease and Desist the operations of Scott Baker and the Southern Nevada Blue Sox on the campus of Basic Academy/HS, located at 400 Palo Verde Dr., Henderson, NV. 89015

Attention: CCSD Trustees; Deanna L. Wright, Carolyn Edwards, Lola Brooks, Linda P. Cavazos, Kevin L. Child, Chris Garvey, Dr. Linda E. Young, Superintendent Dr. Jesus F. Jara & Principal Gerald Bustamante

This letter is served upon, due to the unwanted and perceived discriminatory, immoral, unethical operations of Scott Baker and the Southern Nevada Blue Sox on the campus of Basic Academy/HS, located at 400 Palo Verde Dr., Henderson, NV. 89015.

I write to you as a Taxpayer in the Basic Academy/HS zone and as an Advocate for all past, current, and future potential high school baseball players and their families, who have either been victimized, or will be victimized by this operation while they attended, or are currently, and/or planning to attend Basic Academy/HS.

This operation was originally brought to the attention of each CCSD School Board member, and former Superintendent Pat Skorkowsky plus former Principal Dave Bechtel by letters and emails during the months of July, October and November of 2015. Copies and acknowledgement of these letters and emails remain in my possession.

More letters and emails to the CCSD and other public entities followed throughout 2016, 2017 and most recently in 2018 to the current Principal Gerald Bustamante at Basic Academy/HS all expressing the same theme. It was for the removal of Scott Baker and the Southern Nevada Blue Sox an ‘Unwanted Operation’ from the campus of Basic Academy/HS.

Principal Dave Bechtel along with a small group of others originally initiated the operations of Scott Baker and the Southern Nevada Blue Sox on the campus of Basic Academy/HS during the 2010-11 school year, against the disagreement of many others in the community. Without surveying the staff, school population and families at the time along with the taxpayers in the Basic Academy/HS zone, an autocratic decision was enforced without feedback from the community. These practices remain in effect to this day.

Official Public Records will prove that the sport of baseball is conducted under a set of guidelines that are not offered, and/or practiced by the other sports at Basic Academy/HS.

This ‘autocratic decision’ was designed to coerce players and families to pay extra fees to Scott Baker and the Southern Nevada Blue Sox to qualify for the opportunity to try out and secure a roster spot on the Basic Academy/HS Varsity and JV Baseball Teams. These extra fees are estimated to be in the range of $5,000 to over $7,000 a year or a total of $20,000 to $30,000 over a 4-year period. This total sum along with the Millennium Scholarship is equivalent or exceeds the costs for, a four-year college degree from CSN or Nevada State College.

It is also a known fact according to members in the Henderson community that players and families from the lower socio-economic backgrounds, including members of the local Boys & Girls Club were and are prevented from earning a roster spot on the JV and Varsity Baseball Teams. These same community members and others view this travesty as ‘Discrimination’.

Then there is another group of players and families who refused to contribute to this unwanted, perceived immoral and unethical operations of Scott Baker and the Southern Nevada Blue Sox. Their willing actions of ‘Common Sense’ prevented their sons from earning a roster spot on the JV and Varsity Baseball Teams at Basic Academy/HS. Where is it stated in the CCSD Regulations that only a select group of players and families must pay exorbitant fees to play a high school sport? Since Principal Gerald Bustamante has refused to remove this ‘unwanted operation’, seeking a legal remedy will be my next option.

If you do not cease the aforementioned Operations of Scott Baker and the Southern Nevada Blue Sox on the campus of Basic Academy/HS, located at 400 Palo Verde Dr., Henderson, NV. 89015, a lawsuit will be commenced against you.

If the ‘Unwanted Operation continues, I will seek a temporary Cease & Desist Order in the Henderson Courts against you and any accomplices in this matter. A judge will be provided the facts in order to rule on the merits of the TC&DO. If possible, I will also seek monetary damages to be proved at trial. Principal Bustamante, a former minority student, who played ‘Free Baseball’ with reasonable fees at Basic High School, parlayed his academic and baseball skills into a college baseball scholarship. Should not all current and future potential baseball players of Basic Academy/HS be provided the same opportunity?

Plus, a possible trial would open the door to many questions that will have to be answered by you, including: “Would you and your family personally pay $21,000 to $30,000 over a 4-year period for your son to play baseball at Basic Academy/HS”? Another would be, “Why is the CCSD willing to spend taxpayers’ money to defend an unwanted, perceived immoral, unethical and discriminatory operation on the campus of Basic Academy/HS”?

Hopefully this recourse is not necessary. As an Advocate, I have the very best interests of the players and families of the Henderson Basic Academy/HS Baseball Community to protect and will vigorously do so.

You will not receive another warning letter. If you do not confirm in writing to me by the 25th day of August, 2018, that you will cease violating our Agreement, a lawsuit will be commenced.

George N. Feher

My Road Not Taken now points to an End Game with the CCSD. If a Judge is called for, then a legal decision will be rendered ending in a result that will FREE SPACE in My ASS & 2 BRAINS.

SIGNING OFF,

Fox/Feather

‘TAKE 5’